tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post3658331510746665456..comments2024-03-27T19:04:31.290-05:00Comments on The Amazing Trips: location, location, locationThe Amazing Tripshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13761348688069779544noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-16571455206378281722010-05-19T23:25:34.997-05:002010-05-19T23:25:34.997-05:00I'm so sorry for your loss. You are an inspira...I'm so sorry for your loss. You are an inspiration--your heart and the way you communicate it.LMWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10505430292641269454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-4032462959491966652010-05-19T17:47:36.880-05:002010-05-19T17:47:36.880-05:00I read your blog regularly, and have been meaning ...I read your blog regularly, and have been meaning to send you some words of support. I went through a miscarriage last summer (my twins were almost 4 at the time) and it was incredibly heartbreaking, bringing back all sorts of sad feelings about infertility I thought (or at least hoped) were gone. <br /><br />I didn't expect the emotional pain to last so long, but it has. I've felt sadness off and on this past year, especially around my due date, and when I've watched friends with babies around the age my little one would have been. It doesn't matter how many children you already have -- though I only know my experience, I think it's almost more painful for women with children because you have a deeper understanding of what you are missing. <br /><br />I read a book that was really helpful to me called "About What Was Lost" -- it's an anthology of writings on miscarriage, loss and healing. I thought I'd pass that along in case you find reading about others' experiences helpful or comforting. I've also found some online support through Baby Center chat boards.<br /><br />Hang in there, and know you're not alone. Whatever you may feel, good or bad, is totally normal.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08565700774910592955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-75689681459911017422010-05-15T08:58:48.786-05:002010-05-15T08:58:48.786-05:00Jen, I have giant cysts on my ovaries too. I bet ...Jen, I have giant cysts on my ovaries too. I bet you have Polycystic Ovaries, not the big C. That would explain your infertility issues as well. It would also explain your symptoms and weight gain. Three of my closest friends have PCOS, so I am very familiar with their struggles. They are all on metformin (sp?) to balance out their hormones and ease the symptoms. It's an autoimmune disease, and that would also make sense.<br /><br />Okay, you are freaking me out daily here. <br /><br />Please do not take a hiatus, because we need you. And you need me to talk you down off the wall. See? It's a mutually satisfying fake internet relationship. <br /><br />I cannot believe you are going to Virginia still. OH MY GOSH!Michele Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15061520456909635254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-16023703923564747532010-05-14T23:32:11.095-05:002010-05-14T23:32:11.095-05:00I am sorry that it didnt work out.I am sorry that it didnt work out.ACKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11458759436966727687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-4160882862864464232010-05-14T23:32:11.096-05:002010-05-14T23:32:11.096-05:00I will just keep praying for you. Hold in there.
...I will just keep praying for you. Hold in there. <br /><br />Marla @ www.asthefarmturns.wordpress.comMarlahttp://www.asthefarmturns.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-28033574112338249112010-05-14T22:41:25.786-05:002010-05-14T22:41:25.786-05:00OMG you're so right this month has sucked. I ...OMG you're so right this month has sucked. I know this was a very painful decision for you to make. However, it does leave open the possibility that another miracle can occur and you seem to specialize in miracles.<br /><br />Again I wish I could be there to hold you while you cry so I'm sending lots of Healdsburg love to you, Charlie and your 4 little miracles.<br /><br />Cry your heart out my therapist assures me that it is a very good thing.winecathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07033530470009978632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-60754453486780301842010-05-14T20:47:40.920-05:002010-05-14T20:47:40.920-05:00Jen- So very sorry. Have been thinking and prayi...Jen- So very sorry. Have been thinking and praying for you all week. Can't be easy being so open and vulnerable in your posts, but know it has meant many prayers going up on your behalf. Peace to you.<br />-MelindaMPearsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00081876281204269100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-65822233582934036812010-05-14T20:41:47.356-05:002010-05-14T20:41:47.356-05:00Oh, I am so, so sorry. How scary.
Sending you heal...Oh, I am so, so sorry. How scary.<br />Sending you healing thoughts.s_in_CTnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-16968876549809158442010-05-14T18:48:21.888-05:002010-05-14T18:48:21.888-05:00I only know you from your blog...so maybe this see...I only know you from your blog...so maybe this seems weird...but I did want to tell you how sorry I was.<br /><br />And the whale whisperer photo is very cool!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16478675174493369122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-68068931213030570002010-05-14T17:30:19.317-05:002010-05-14T17:30:19.317-05:00The last post I commented a big congrats on your p...The last post I commented a big congrats on your pg. I've noticed in the last few posts that you're not posting comments which I totally understand. I just wanted to send you my hugs as your go through this trying time. (((Hugs))).Jacquihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16787465281319425922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-62537668729887907172010-05-14T16:33:06.967-05:002010-05-14T16:33:06.967-05:00Jen - My heart goes out to you. I can't figure...Jen - My heart goes out to you. I can't figure out how to email you directly so I hope if you're up to it you will email me at cmbresolve@hotmail.com. I've followed your story from Babysteps for years. I've gone through IVF 9 times (thankfully have a toddler and twins as a result) - but 2 of those cycles were deamed "ecotpic" and I had the MTX shots. Feel free to email me if you want someone who has been there/done that. Hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-86162983439786238802010-05-14T16:29:42.228-05:002010-05-14T16:29:42.228-05:00I was thinking, Jen, with the lower back pain that...I was thinking, Jen, with the lower back pain that your pregnancy sounded ectopic. I have had two and know they the trauma of the tricky HCG numbers. So sorry to hear about your dashed dreams for this baby. Hope you can achieve your dream of another child, however, it may happen.<br /><br />AliceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-30526347883756094472010-05-14T16:28:12.412-05:002010-05-14T16:28:12.412-05:00I'm so sorry : ( that breaks my heart too.I'm so sorry : ( that breaks my heart too.holly whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10330225563028611599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-6845656592829900272010-05-14T15:55:32.297-05:002010-05-14T15:55:32.297-05:00Oh Jen, I'm so sorry. My heart is breaking fo...Oh Jen, I'm so sorry. My heart is breaking for you. I've been there and it hurts so bad (except mine were not ectopic). I will be saying some prayers and will tell myself, and you, that our little angels shall play together in heaven.Kahlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09062732728748588097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-14164735786657816982010-05-14T14:19:50.204-05:002010-05-14T14:19:50.204-05:00My heart breaks for you all over again, Jen. Your...My heart breaks for you all over again, Jen. Your story sounds very similar to mine. My HCG levels were in the 400s at first, then they more than doubled into the 800s, giving me hope that maybe it was a vanishing twin. Then the carpet was ripped out from under me when the 3rd reading went back into the 400s where the readings then plateaued. They suspected ectopic with mine as well. I opted to go without the mtx (my Dr. gave me a couple of days to do my own research since they couldn't visualize the embryo in the ultrasound). Regardless, the results are the same - one beautiful little baby awaiting your arrival in heaven. I don't know what is harder - knowing that you're miscarrying and losing a baby, or knowing that there might just be a perfectly healthy baby, but in the wrong place. Anyway, my thoughts and prayers (and tears) are with you. And thank you for being so open with your situation - I think women would gain much solace from sharing these situations rather than keeping them secret.JulieGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04358145106031620816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-67569717973142510122010-05-14T14:02:54.615-05:002010-05-14T14:02:54.615-05:00I am so sorry for all this Jen. Seems to be insult...I am so sorry for all this Jen. Seems to be insult to injury that you had to make this tough call too. Praying for you and the family.LoveLladrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13978797008813692988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-49874276642348695682010-05-14T13:56:26.325-05:002010-05-14T13:56:26.325-05:00I'm so sorry, my sister. May this season of g...I'm so sorry, my sister. May this season of grief pass quickly. I am holding you in my heart.<br /><br />ChristinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-5032837249007423202010-05-14T13:50:48.546-05:002010-05-14T13:50:48.546-05:00I'm so sorry, Jen. This is terribly sad news....I'm so sorry, Jen. This is terribly sad news. Hugs and prayers from Ann Arbor.Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11632257997073091925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-89704956869016650002010-05-14T12:12:55.882-05:002010-05-14T12:12:55.882-05:00You are in my prayers! While you are doing the ri...You are in my prayers! While you are doing the right thing - I'm sure that doesn't offer any comfort. Thank you for sharing with your readers. I hope the physical pain in the next few days is minimal...and I hope the emotional pain gets better.<br /><br />P.S. That picture is wonderful!!!wonderchrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15564690129943594159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-27225444716949535542010-05-14T11:30:19.713-05:002010-05-14T11:30:19.713-05:00Jen, I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy in 1986, w...Jen, I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy in 1986, which started my whole infertility trek leading to finally having my triplets in 1998. Trust me, it is not something you want to experience. It was the worst pain I have ever experienced.<br /><br />I was (according to the drs) close to death. I look at my five children I have now and am so thankful I didn't die. <br /><br />It's tough, I know, but the alternatives are tougher.<br /><br />You are in my prayers.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729302719897979984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-90601092490628321132010-05-14T11:21:34.621-05:002010-05-14T11:21:34.621-05:00My mother's last pregnancy was ectopic. I was...My mother's last pregnancy was ectopic. I was 16 and scared to death. She was already experiencing internal bleeding and had to have emergency surgery. Not fun. <br /><br />I loved Elizabeth and Carolyn's solution - it's so sweet and heartbreaking. I think the worst part about my own miscarriage was telling my daughter (who was almost five at that time) that there would be no baby. She wanted a baby almost more than I did and was devastated. It was hard.<br /><br />Still praying for you, Jen.Deannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06264388274486422686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-32659160726222672902010-05-14T10:51:37.004-05:002010-05-14T10:51:37.004-05:00I am just so so so sorry.I am just so so so sorry.Carmenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18328635258958381699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-79635763423794116482010-05-14T10:44:58.288-05:002010-05-14T10:44:58.288-05:00Oh, Jen. I wish I could say something that would h...Oh, Jen. I wish I could say something that would help. I can only imagine your pain right now. Please know that I am praying for you and your family. In fact, you were on my heart all day yesterday. I'm sorry that you guys are having to go through this.<br /><br />((HUGS))<br />SarahSarah Lnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-36432331633633863992010-05-14T10:07:52.615-05:002010-05-14T10:07:52.615-05:00Aw, I'm really sorry, Jen. Thinking/praying f...Aw, I'm really sorry, Jen. Thinking/praying for you.Michelle M in TXnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-39336076910743781662010-05-14T09:25:05.792-05:002010-05-14T09:25:05.792-05:00I am sorry you are going through this but please d...I am sorry you are going through this but please do not refer to it as "killing your unborn child" or even come close to comparing it to abortion. It is NOT. Many of us have had to use methotrexate for ectopic pregnancies. (and also experienced other miscarriages and difficulties getting pregnant) I was in PAIN with my ectopic. And, I would NEVER dream of EVER having an abortion. <br /><br />Godspeed...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com