tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post8780262898262120706..comments2024-03-27T19:04:31.290-05:00Comments on The Amazing Trips: waffling and waveringThe Amazing Tripshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13761348688069779544noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-35904297006437738232010-04-01T13:15:26.967-05:002010-04-01T13:15:26.967-05:00What a tough situation. We actually lived in the D...What a tough situation. We actually lived in the DC area (Bethesda) for 4 years, then moved to San Diego 2.5 years ago (both moves were for my husband to take yet another post-doc that supposedly would better position him for faculty or pharma jobs in the future...but that's another story). Our one child was born 1 year after we moved to SD; we didn't have kids while we were in the DC area.<br /><br />DC had a lot going for it (and I would think it would be a great place with kids), but we also grew quickly frustrated with the atmosphere -- people are so incredibly career-driven; summers were miserable; traffic was a nightmare (we were so happy to see that SD traffic was nowhere near as bad) and commutes were crazy for most people; population density seemed an order of magnitude (at least) higher than it does in SD; etc. <br /><br />We have been so much happier in SD, even though I think the state of CA still has a long way to go before getting out of its huge economic mess. The cost of living in the 2 places is similar (housing in particular), but being able to get fresh, local produce year-round in SD has been a boon for us, as has the more general friendliness (real or perceived) of people in this region.<br /><br />It's a tough call and I don't envy your position right now -- hoping you can find some clarity soon.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02841167006406568113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-65992373692869385002010-04-01T13:04:31.995-05:002010-04-01T13:04:31.995-05:00I voted to go to VA but I say you have to do what ...I voted to go to VA but I say you have to do what is BEST for your family. Family and job-security *far* out-weigh nice weather in my opinion. Beautiful weather is great, don't get me wrong but you can never get time with your parents back once it is gone forever. You have many, many, many years to live back in CA if you so decide. Your kids are at perfect ages to move...another year or two and it would be MUCH harder. I think renting your house is a fabulous idea because then you can always go back if you want/need to. You and Charlie always seem up for an adventure anyway. Good luck and hope an answer comes to you soon!<br /><br />MelissaMelissanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-43691132956602886232010-04-01T12:51:00.647-05:002010-04-01T12:51:00.647-05:00Tough one!
Thing is - if you move you will alway...Tough one! <br /><br />Thing is - if you move you will always have the option to move back, but if you don't move then you'll never know what may have happened.<br /><br />For me - family is a big deal clincher, no matter how lovely the weather is in CA and the fact you can work from home. A large commute to family only gets tougher as the kids get older, and by jove I wish I had had the opportunity to live closer to my aunts, uncles and cousins when I was younger (and older too!). As half my family are on the other side of the world!<br /><br />I say move - California will always be there and would be nice for the kiddos to have a fresh start for kindergarten any how! <br /><br />But that's just me - somehow I have always found the whole prospect and process or moving really exciting!<br /><br />Go with your gut - it's always right, even if it doesn't seem so now.<br /><br />Good luck:O)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-21184179043513765962010-04-01T12:34:12.749-05:002010-04-01T12:34:12.749-05:00I am in no way telling you what you should do but ...I am in no way telling you what you should do but I will tell you what I would do. I would take the job in Virginia. The stability would far outweigh the other things I would be worried about. Is there a way Charlie could run his new business on the East Coast and just go on a trip out West when needed? <br /><br />I remember when you were debating Disneyland or your business trip to VA and from I remember, it was northern Virginia. So I'm guessing that's where you would be moving. It is a beautiful area and very expensive to live in. From what I hear from friends, it's a hectic place if you're in the DC circles at all (politics). I was born and raised in Virginia Beach (the most South Eastern part of the state) and the Navy has just recently brought us back here. I have seen almost all of Virginia throughout my life and just about all of it is nice. Someone mentioned Williamsburg and that is a gorgeous part of VA, but may be a bit of a commute for you. The public schools in Northern VA are some of the best in the state if that's what you're worried about. I don't know what you should choose. Only you and Charlie can decide. But I do know that as far as the VA environment goes, it's a great place to raise a family.Mother Hoodwinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11866462627632271533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-74553316379864904192010-04-01T12:25:51.605-05:002010-04-01T12:25:51.605-05:00I voted for Virginia, but I think you should talk ...I voted for Virginia, but I think you should talk to your new boss first and express that in order to accept the position, you have to have flexibility and be able to work from home at least some of the time.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10150735227587285350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-67512404912340801822010-04-01T12:20:26.880-05:002010-04-01T12:20:26.880-05:00Get the hell out of Dodge.......CA's economy i...Get the hell out of Dodge.......CA's economy is going to tank even more.<br /><br />YES, it's lovely here. YES, it's familiar. But there are so many pros -- solid employment being a big one --- that you should roll with it. It's time.<br /><br />If we had the opportunity, we would leave CA as well.Joy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12746570281283136391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-21389205742032396432010-04-01T12:05:04.475-05:002010-04-01T12:05:04.475-05:00Whatever happens, you're not alone on the matt...Whatever happens, you're not alone on the matter...you may not totally believe in this Christian stuff, but, there is One who's looking out for you and will provide for you guys no matter what. Good things will be in Virginia, good things will happen if you stay - but you might regret in the future not taking the chance that you have now. <br /><br />I have a similar (only verly slightly similar) decision to make, moving from one school to another...which would result in less pay, possible non-residency, longer (harder) hours, a move from my own apartment to a shared one...and although this would sound like complete and utter backwards craziness to anyone else - I think I'm up for the challenge, and the call to fulltime youth ministry. We'll see....<br /><br />But you're not alone! Plus, you've got your husband and kids by your side. It sounds like no matter what you do, you'll find an adventure, somewhere and somehow...Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08357320057380815161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-82354368267785251132010-04-01T11:39:24.982-05:002010-04-01T11:39:24.982-05:00VA all the way, baby.
A good friend once told me...VA all the way, baby. <br /><br />A good friend once told me: <br /><br />"Go with whatever makes your heart beat faster". <br /><br />plus my email sig: <br /><br />"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you<br />didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines.<br />Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails.<br />Explore. Dream. Discover." [Attrib: Mark Twain]<br /><br /><br /><br />You will never know if you don't go. And you can always come 'home'. <br /><br />ps Family wins. If you move to VA, you will still be a family, AND closer to your family - which from your blog posts appears to be really important to you.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12408935691535028803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-28575844288170251832010-04-01T11:24:41.360-05:002010-04-01T11:24:41.360-05:00I can't vote... you didn't put an "Al...I can't vote... you didn't put an "All of the above" option. Man, it's a tough choice.<br /><br />Don't have words of wisdom. Just a promise that with either decision, you're friends aren't going anywhere. Blogs and Facebook and email make sure of that.Deborah Halversonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01813383597378919945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-88130628922676364062010-04-01T10:23:10.940-05:002010-04-01T10:23:10.940-05:00Call me crazy, but anything can happen in the next...Call me crazy, but anything can happen in the next 2 years. For now you would have 2 years of this type of work schedule, in a lovely climate. If your job were to go away in 2 years you could find work elsewhere then.<br />Charlie could find other work by then, or his business could take off.<br />Knowing now that it's a possibility you could begin planning for it financially.<br />I'm a big believer in having faith that what you are doing now is best for your family and something will work out. Again 2 years is a long time.<br />As far as visiting family, I agree being able to is nice, but it's not daily life. Take into consideration what daily life will be like, away from home in an office all day.Coranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-29472313632282204442010-04-01T10:14:51.272-05:002010-04-01T10:14:51.272-05:00Oh I don't envy your position. Though I think ...Oh I don't envy your position. Though I think in these times esp, when a job is not certain-- if you have an opportunity to continue to continue to provide for your growing family-- you almost have to take it. <br /><br />((hugs)) <br /><br />My thoughts are with you!Bird's Eye View Photographyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08813489889625737678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-75656222534245648542010-04-01T10:08:53.067-05:002010-04-01T10:08:53.067-05:00What I'd do is make the move.
Your family wil...What I'd do is make the move.<br /><br />Your family will stay together, no matter what, and no matter where. There's something to be said for secure finances when you have four mouths to feed. You are an extraordinary mother, and you will be able to share all your love with your children even if you're in an office during the week. The upside to an office job is that when you're home, you belong wholly to your family.<br /><br />In my family, I'm in Charlie's shoes. I'm the one whose career suffers when my husband's job moves us, but this is their time, hubby's to serve in a way that is deeply meaningful to him, and my kids' time to get the best of me. Deep job satisfaction can come for me once the kids are out of the house and hubby retires from the army. From all you've said about Charlie, he probably feels the same way. Having Grandma and Grandpa nearer - well, that would be a thick layer of calorie-free buttercream icing.<br /><br />You may not see your neighbours and friends every day, but they will stay part of your lives. (My neighbourhood support system is about to be fractured by three military transfers in quick succession. I'm going to miss my friends' and my kids' near-siblings desperately, but we won't be losing touch.)Sadiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04042551936789254047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-65500735476024103062010-04-01T09:55:26.518-05:002010-04-01T09:55:26.518-05:00Oh honey, listen to your heart and it will tell yo...Oh honey, listen to your heart and it will tell you what to do. Lots of positive energy while you ponder your decision this week.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03442002779341869272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-89402578965613567992010-04-01T09:35:00.973-05:002010-04-01T09:35:00.973-05:00just voted and surprised at the results - nothing...just voted and surprised at the results - nothing more important than making memories with kids - being there to share as much as possible with them for your sake and theirs - life is too uncertain - illness, etc- who knows what two years from now will bring -wendynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-54871698417661324662010-04-01T08:38:15.268-05:002010-04-01T08:38:15.268-05:00VA starts Kindergarten (some 1/2 day, some full de...VA starts Kindergarten (some 1/2 day, some full depending on county) at age 5. I'd move to VA - they'll be in school ANYWAY, you might as well be gainfully employed. And a couple of formative years worth of setting up holiday traditions with their east coast side of families would be great - a great southern Christmas? Or white wintery one in MA? Sounds like heaven to me!!VHMPrincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13616654905892431171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-37107679391996273212010-04-01T08:26:29.867-05:002010-04-01T08:26:29.867-05:00I'm moving in two weeks Jen. My drive to work,...I'm moving in two weeks Jen. My drive to work, shopping and friends will now be 30 minutes longer....but my family will only be two minutes away. I'm just sayin'. <br /><br />XOXO AMAnnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00713799858334665501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-6365179799034959982010-04-01T08:12:45.585-05:002010-04-01T08:12:45.585-05:00Ultimately, the only one who can make that decisio...Ultimately, the only one who can make that decision is you and I know, as a stay at home mom, how hard the decision is. <br /><br />But here's my opinion- being close to family and developing those relationships is huge. HUGE. And lifelong. Plus, seasons! Yes, year round perfect weather is nice but seasons bring a gloriousness of its own. <br /><br />Good luck with the decision. I don't envy you guys and especially you, because I know you will worry and second guess yourself every single step of the way.Leeannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17529722995554495470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-82605959305141318392010-04-01T07:14:55.491-05:002010-04-01T07:14:55.491-05:00I live in Va and its nice..but it really depends o...I live in Va and its nice..but it really depends on what area you're moving to. Williamsburg/yorktown are really nice (with outlet stores too!), out towards the mountains is much more 'country', and Richmond/Norfolk have nice areas (but also a lot of areas you want to definitely stay away from). And of course everything is nice up near DC but expensive as crap. If I had to choose, knowing what i do about Va, I'd probably stay in CA :) our summers are pure humidity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-72950361115633415502010-04-01T06:51:08.305-05:002010-04-01T06:51:08.305-05:00San Diego is not going anywhere. You can ALWAYS g...San Diego is not going anywhere. You can ALWAYS go back. Kids are resiliant that way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-16061176813504989042010-04-01T06:19:16.658-05:002010-04-01T06:19:16.658-05:00Yes, today I am reading your blog. I have been awa...Yes, today I am reading your blog. I have been away to long. But, I have been really busy around here cleaning up after fires, mud in pools, school, the list goes on and on...some weeks I don't even keep up with my own blog. :)<br /><br />Move or Do not Move? That is the question.<br /><br />Follow your heart Jen; You and Charlie know what is best for family. You stay where you are and all you have is to depend on each other...THAT is NOT a bad thing. Security??? mmmm WHAT is that...Security is your husband and knowing you are trying your best for your family. <br /><br />Remember what my father always said, "If you are happy where you are, you will be happy were your going." If you listen you will hear him. <br /><br />I'm off to catch up on your life...Love you very much! I know YOU and Charlie can decide this one without me hitting a button. :)Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04395804927366343180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-51558787671163448702010-04-01T06:16:02.417-05:002010-04-01T06:16:02.417-05:00I was unable to cast my vote. I say move to Virgi...I was unable to cast my vote. I say move to Virginia. It is beautiful there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-6387481396580545722010-04-01T06:09:56.544-05:002010-04-01T06:09:56.544-05:00Although this an intensely personal decision - I a...Although this an intensely personal decision - I am going to throw my two cents in. I say move. Personally, I prefer stability (particularly right now in this economy) and if your job will be iffy if you stay....<br /><br />Although the East Coast isn't always warm & sunny - depending on where in VA you are looking at - Virginia has a fairly moderate climate and there is plenty of outdoor activities to be had; which you & your family love - so you wouldn't be giving that up.Gigihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05467164195744234746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-76691185511319701212010-04-01T06:05:42.958-05:002010-04-01T06:05:42.958-05:00Pray pray pray...but to me it look like God has op...Pray pray pray...but to me it look like God has opened up this new opportunity for you since your current opportunity is being shut in two years time.Drew and Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13157886088555530151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-90025749211104661052010-04-01T05:27:52.026-05:002010-04-01T05:27:52.026-05:00I'd go and plan on making it a short term adve...I'd go and plan on making it a short term adventure. I live in the area where I think you are looking (Northern VA) and we hate it. Sure, there are a lot of things to do in DC - but living here is like living in a rat race. Everything is go, go, go. Houses are small, schools vary widely in competence, traffic is a nightmare, and there is an odd sense of competition among parents. We've been here for 18 years and have 4y twins and can't wait to move someplace with a slower pace of life and where we are spending less time commuting and more time with our kids. It may be a great place for you due to employment (it is for us) but I don't find it a great place to raise kids. Just my $.02. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-31270249380287738922010-04-01T02:04:27.150-05:002010-04-01T02:04:27.150-05:00say yes! i think you only end up regretting the th...say yes! i think you only end up regretting the things you don't do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com