tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post2316862748841987944..comments2024-03-27T19:04:31.290-05:00Comments on The Amazing Trips: mind gamesThe Amazing Tripshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13761348688069779544noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-86189772817109079532010-05-11T10:51:39.299-05:002010-05-11T10:51:39.299-05:00Breathe. I blame myself for things that can't ...Breathe. I blame myself for things that can't be helped all the time. I suppose it gives me the illusion of control, but it can be crippling. I get it, but I also get why my husband keeps telling me to let it go.<br /><br />Deal with what is; what may be is for another time.Sadiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04042551936789254047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-37234617832376227852010-05-10T12:32:53.286-05:002010-05-10T12:32:53.286-05:00I'm so sorry. I took echinacea cough drops whi...I'm so sorry. I took echinacea cough drops while pregnant and didn't even think about it until one day it just hit me that I hadn't checked to see if echinacea was safe. I mean they were fucking cough drops! I had been eating them like candy b/c the doctor's list had basically just said tylenol and cough drops were safe.<br /><br />I know you're blaming yourself right now and I'm so sorry. Its a heartrending guilty feeling when you think (know) you've unintentionally endangered your child. You feel so stupid. But you aren't stupid. You're a busy woman who was ill and didn't know she was pregnant. Supplements like that seem so harmless.<br /><br />I know there's nothing to say to make you feel better so I'll shut up now, just know that I'm crossing my fingers and sending lots of love your way.Carmenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18328635258958381699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-58052233227484434802010-05-10T10:43:59.873-05:002010-05-10T10:43:59.873-05:00((((Jenn)))) I wish I had something comforting. ...((((Jenn)))) I wish I had something comforting. I've been here, where you are. That's all I have: a promise that you are not alone in this experience. <br /><br />Our situations are not exactly the same, so I don't <i>completely</i> understand your perspective, but I understand a lot of your emotional turmoil. I'm hurting here with you, not because of my experience, but because I know how much this hurts you.AWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07976537861843058177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-62330593614753092392010-05-10T08:51:22.598-05:002010-05-10T08:51:22.598-05:00Please don't beat yourself up or blame yoursel...Please don't beat yourself up or blame yourself. There is a chance that those supplements did NOT cause any harm. I know it is hard though, I do the same thing. With the first pregnancy I lost I had been exposed to Yard Guard at a party, at precisely the time when they said that baby stopped growing. I am sure your doc will tell you not to blame yourself. Still praying for you!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17720676716867997935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-77028156565031289822010-05-10T08:47:04.485-05:002010-05-10T08:47:04.485-05:00I'm thinking of you. I hope everything is oka...I'm thinking of you. I hope everything is okay.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-3751083216344264682010-05-10T07:44:27.808-05:002010-05-10T07:44:27.808-05:00I am crying with you right now. I am so, so sorry...I am crying with you right now. I am so, so sorry.Sarahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-15925355540290681172010-05-09T20:44:42.268-05:002010-05-09T20:44:42.268-05:00The waiting sucks! I hate it- not knowing one way...The waiting sucks! I hate it- not knowing one way or another. SO stressful. And I've beaten myself up more than once for things like the goldenseal. Thinking of you, and your tiny newest baby... and hoping and praying for the best!Jaymehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03278891048170366347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-65749073033935922892010-05-09T20:37:48.437-05:002010-05-09T20:37:48.437-05:00Hi Jen,I've been reading your blog for over a ...Hi Jen,I've been reading your blog for over a year and I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you and am praying for you and your family. Please do not blame yourself for this - you are an amazing mom and I am so sorry if this pregnancy does end. Please know that you have support out here on the Internet and I admire your courage for being so open with everyone. Please lean on us!Jillnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-54350710961638645672010-05-09T19:14:30.436-05:002010-05-09T19:14:30.436-05:00Praying for you all.
Kari in GAPraying for you all.<br /><br />Kari in GAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-43233433588027257242010-05-09T14:19:46.066-05:002010-05-09T14:19:46.066-05:00Sending good thoughts your way!!! Love you!Sending good thoughts your way!!! Love you!Geologychickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05326271846932273163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-61875980367754430192010-05-09T12:46:58.400-05:002010-05-09T12:46:58.400-05:00I found your blog through Michelle S's triplet...I found your blog through Michelle S's triplets + 1 blog. I just wanted to tell you that if it turns out that things are as you fear, I understand how you feel. My husband and I found out that we lost our baby on April 27. We have tried for 5 years to have this baby, and I FINALLY got pregnant. We were to have the little one on November 3rd. We had to have the baby removed by D&C on April 28. It has been awful. It was crushing, just as you said. I have all of the same things you have felt. I wanted THIS baby, wondering did I kill my child, was it this drug or that supplement, did I cause a fatal birth defect by failing to adequately manage my diabetes before I knew I was pregnant, was it the devastating stress I was under at exactly the same time our child died? The questions have gone on and on. I also told friends and people at work (we did not tell our 7 year-old because he has prayed literally every night for a sibling for the last 4 years and he would have been crushed), and like you, I have found that it really helps to have their support. I don't have anything to say to make you feel better. I just want you to know that there is someone out there that is going through the exact same thing at the same time, and if nothing else, I really, truly understand. We're going to make it through this, and today, especially today, we need to love on the little ones that we do have. Something about the smile of a child you love does help ease the pain, even if for a moment. A hug to you from a mom in St. Louis.Christian's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16249748757200388300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-22858903801718616002010-05-09T07:38:57.914-05:002010-05-09T07:38:57.914-05:00Oh my, you poor poor girl. I know nothing I can sa...Oh my, you poor poor girl. I know nothing I can say will make you feel any better, only lots of people don't realize they are pregnant for a while and take lots of stuff they are not supposed to. My heart is broken for you. I am so sorry.J from Irelandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04358890639197418489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-12947419541282821942010-05-09T07:16:21.675-05:002010-05-09T07:16:21.675-05:00This situation would be tough on anyone. Try to ta...This situation would be tough on anyone. Try to take a deep breath and give your self a little bit of a break. There is nothing more that you can do really. I pray that things start looking better for you. **HUGS**Mommy Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02272248293460562006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-6741231975212142010-05-09T02:45:16.994-05:002010-05-09T02:45:16.994-05:00Oh, Jen!
You know, at age 39 it is more likely tha...Oh, Jen!<br />You know, at age 39 it is more likely than not, if you are experiencing a miscarriage (which I pray you are not), that it is due to chromosomal abnormality. Even leaving advanced maternal age out of the picture, 90% of pregnancy losses are caused by chromosomal abnormality; I am sure that figure would be higher if only 35 years of age and older were considered. <br /><br />Desperately hoping that your little bean hangs in there, and sending you prayers.s_in_CTnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-17648224311894341642010-05-09T01:57:45.219-05:002010-05-09T01:57:45.219-05:00Hugs!!! Don't be so hard on yourself. Those d...Hugs!!! Don't be so hard on yourself. Those dreams are very normal in pregnancy, no need to read too much into it. And it is NEVER your fault, no matter what happens. It is just your body being smart and doing the right thing. I know how it hurts, I lost one last summer. However, I also know you will be fine. I was pregnant again after 4 months, and I am about to turn 38, no big deal. The most important thing seems to be that you decided against this job and for your family. Maybe your body will get some much needed rest. Things always happen for a reason. Love! (from a lurker that loves your blog! you have made so many days for me, I hope everything will be fine and you get better soon) <br />AnaisBack to the Old Worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08425781712623766414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-42796968932310310322010-05-08T23:42:14.261-05:002010-05-08T23:42:14.261-05:00I wouldn't get too excited about the warnings ...I wouldn't get too excited about the warnings label. My toaster says: "Warning - hot surfaces". Duh. At McDonald's, the coffee is labeled: "Caution, handle with care! Hot coffee", or something that stupid. Zatta fact? Hooda known??? :O How many people would buy cold coffee???<br /><br />Did you ever look up the warnings of Benedryl? The horrible side effects and all. Ain't NOTHIN ever happened to anybody that took benedryl, I don't think. The old PDR went on for PAGES about it. All that is SO over the top. They have warnings about eveything, because people are so sue-crazy these days. I wouldn't get too excited about warning labels.<br /><br />~Just ~Cindy! :D<br />..~Cindy! :Dhttp://everybody knows it!noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-1760690169982910112010-05-08T22:22:46.597-05:002010-05-08T22:22:46.597-05:00I lost a baby at 16 weeks. I convinced my self tha...I lost a baby at 16 weeks. I convinced my self that I had contracted Listeria when I ate a luke warm hot dog at our local show. I blamed myself completly and was inconsolable, I know how you feel. After time goes by you do stop blaming yourself, it isn't your fault that is IF you are having a miscarriage. No point to this but to say I know how you feel and it is horrible, you will get through, you will come out the other side and you will be different and that too can be a blessing in disguise,Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05005533100786084174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-33599593996199511722010-05-08T22:19:54.515-05:002010-05-08T22:19:54.515-05:00I hope you are reading these at least, because I w...I hope you are reading these at least, because I want you to both get the support of your readers, and also, hopefully, realize you are NOT to blame. <br />I wanted you to know that goldseal causes uterine contractions, but that would require a much further along pregnancy to be a problem. As far as Echinacea goes - that one study was only 1 study and nothing was done to verify if there was any other factors affecting the women in either group - so in effect, you have no clue that the data is conclusive. Without collaborating studies as well as background on the women, there is nothing you can get from that study other than a non-answer - it didn't cause any obvious side effects. Also, at 6 weeks pregnancy (as I'm sure you know) you are very hormonal and I can understand your fears - I don't know about you, but when I was pregnant (my oldest is adopted, my twins were a pregancy), I developed irrational fears, that I KNEW were irrational, but I couldn't help feeling. I was certain that I, personally, was going to break my childrens necks by doing something (like dropping them, or lifting them up wrong, or anything). I didn't, of course, but that was my first exposure to the hormonal affects that pregnancy can have on a woman's mind, I didn't have any of those crazy feelings, fears, etc. with my oldest, because I didn't have the hormones. So, give yourself a break, and please, don't think you did anything to cause this. You didn't. <br /><br />I am hoping for you to have another chance soon. I am very sorry you are going through this. <br /><br />Take careJessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09909061105953641465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-17547700500751350662010-05-08T20:57:46.438-05:002010-05-08T20:57:46.438-05:00Don't beat yourself up. It's so easy and y...Don't beat yourself up. It's so easy and yet so destructive. I went through 8 years of infertility, 7 miscarriages had my gorgeous miracle daughter, had the 8th miscarriage and then my adorable miracle son. Our fertility doctor told me you can't shake a good apple out of a tree and the same analogy applies to pregnancy. It won't be from taking a few vitamins. My successful pregnancies happened during two of the most stressful times in my life.<br /><br />I'm sending lots of positive thoughts and energy your way for a successful outcome to this much wanted pregnancy. I love reading about your little family and know through your reading how much you embrace motherhood.<br /><br />Hope the weekend brings good news!<br /><br />Happy Mother's Day!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-14086740708695915022010-05-08T20:27:05.629-05:002010-05-08T20:27:05.629-05:00Just know that no matter what, you are not alone. ...Just know that no matter what, you are not alone. Those that you care about, care about you and how you are. Others, who may make hurtful comments, don't matter. As you said in the previous post, all you can do hug your children, love your husband, and wait.<br /><br />Not to turn this into a "me too" moment, but I had a miscarriage. That pregnancy never felt right the way the others (one before and one after) did.<br /><br />You've had three miracles (your trips, Henry and this pregnancy)- there is no limit on the number of miracles that can happen.<br /><br />KathyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-11377399998851586432010-05-08T19:25:18.950-05:002010-05-08T19:25:18.950-05:00Hi~
Oh Jen, I can feel how deeply vulnerable you ...Hi~<br /><br />Oh Jen, I can feel how deeply vulnerable you are feeling. My heart is going out to you.<br /><br />Be kind and patient with yourself. Stop blaming. Lean on Charlie. Lean on anything that holds you up. Know that so many of us are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. <br /><br />With much love and peace~<br />KarenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-17185985064958023522010-05-08T18:46:58.079-05:002010-05-08T18:46:58.079-05:00This just breaks my heart that you are going throu...This just breaks my heart that you are going through this on top of everything else on you plate.<br /><br />Sending cyber thoughts and prayers to you and your family.Jennifer Jayhawkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12100353304775172720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-30762240584712120162010-05-08T18:14:18.499-05:002010-05-08T18:14:18.499-05:00Praying and thinking of you.Praying and thinking of you.A Bite of Country Cupcakeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337808881393976817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-87277097256019015902010-05-08T16:55:40.452-05:002010-05-08T16:55:40.452-05:00I've been thinking about you a lot and checkin...I've been thinking about you a lot and checking in often, as I started following you back when Henry was born and I was expecting my first around the same time. <br /><br />With that pregnancy, I was told by one doctor that I was having a miscarriage, only to find out a week later from another doctor that the baby was still there, but still might not make it. The days of waiting to know for sure were excruciating. I hate that anyone has to go through that. I just remember an endless stream of sobbing.<br /><br />Then my second child was born this past winter with digestive problems that mean she needs a special formula and can't digest breastmilk. No one knows for sure why this happened, but I can't help but think it's because of something I did or didn't do while I was pregnant. As if the pain of not being able to nurse and comfort your newborn isn't enough, the uncertain guilt piled on sure is.<br /><br />I so feel your pain and I thank you for articulating it better than I ever could or can.Saranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-28332301583956544572010-05-08T16:51:31.763-05:002010-05-08T16:51:31.763-05:00I cannot begin to imagine what you are feeling rig...I cannot begin to imagine what you are feeling right now and won't pretend to. I will say though, I will pray for you. For peace, healing, and strength for whichever way this leads your life. I will also pray for Charlie and the children.Dawnnoreply@blogger.com