tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post1140567618304271939..comments2024-03-27T19:04:31.290-05:00Comments on The Amazing Trips: keeping the love aliveThe Amazing Tripshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13761348688069779544noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-46413077803690605552008-03-27T17:12:00.000-05:002008-03-27T17:12:00.000-05:00It is SO hard to relinquish control and let someon...It is SO hard to relinquish control and let someone else take the reigns, especially when their actions have direct repercussions on the way your day, or night, goes. <BR/>But seriously, why take things OUT of the car? I HATE that! <BR/><BR/>Another lesson learned the hard way... Never assume. I once bit back a "make sure you put her shoes on the right feet" thinking "duh, it's so obvious I don't need to specify it" and the poor kid walked around all day with her shoes on the wrong feet. No I don't assume any more. <BR/><BR/>Good luck with the going back to work. <BR/>Are you going to pump or wean the little cutie?Jessica R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03195009922804434161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-35528812401477302462008-03-27T15:35:00.000-05:002008-03-27T15:35:00.000-05:00I also have major control issues and I was EXTREME...I also have major control issues and I was EXTREMELY bad during the first 3 years of my twins lives. Everything HAD to be my way if it involved the house or the kids. It did take a toll...my poor husband was afraid to do ANYTHING for fear he would do it wrong!!! My twins are 5 1/2 now and I am WAAAAY better...DH finally said one day that I was seriously impacting his relationship with his kids because of my control issues and that was a big wake-up call for me. I now have a 9 month old and dh can't believe how laid back I am with her compared to the boys!!! This is a great post and such a real topic for most moms (especially stay-at-home moms).<BR/><BR/>Kelly(Houston)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-31220228124425403392008-03-27T14:53:00.000-05:002008-03-27T14:53:00.000-05:00I think going back to work part-time will be just ...I think going back to work part-time will be just the ticket for you Jen. You won't be there obsessing over every little thing. My bestfriend went back to work recently after 2 years off. She's only working part-time too and is juggling the care with her husband. On her first day of work, she called me on the way home and said, "I'm ALIVE. I FEEL ALIVE." <BR/><BR/>I, too, think it's really good that you are aware of the control issues. My mother (Control Freak Extraordinare) never saw it. She drove all of us away in the end. I mean don't get me wrong, my father was a rat bastard who couldn't keep his penis in his pants, but no one, and I mean NO ONE could live with her and live up to her expectations. We loved her dearly, but her control issues took a toll on us too.<BR/><BR/>So just continue to be aware like you are. All that control causes so much additional stress and affects our health and well-being. You need to be healthy for everyone!!! Especially if your husband is only going to be cooking vegetables and rice from now on. <BR/><BR/>OMG! Get some control over there! What are you doing? :)Michele Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15061520456909635254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-49874272190378828182008-03-27T12:27:00.000-05:002008-03-27T12:27:00.000-05:00This post will be e-mailed directly to my hubby at...This post will be e-mailed directly to my hubby at work, so he realizes there are other people out there who act/think just like me. Attached will also be an apology for my freak out when he rearranged the cupboard to fit all of the Easter candy on one shelf.<BR/>Letting go of control is so hard!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-84033794263394527982008-03-27T09:38:00.000-05:002008-03-27T09:38:00.000-05:00You are very self aware. It took me years to reali...You are very self aware. It took me years to realize that I had control issues in my marriage. By the time I realized it, I was divorced! Good luck on going back to work. The break will be good for you.Susiewearsthepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416191781443415275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-56497618284846151962008-03-27T04:29:00.000-05:002008-03-27T04:29:00.000-05:00Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing.I r...Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing.<BR/><BR/>I remember my daughter once saying to me "he doesnt do this, and he does that the wrong way and I wish he would do this other thing" My reply? "Darling, you will never turn him into a wife." <BR/><BR/>She learned to work with him in a different way to get things done, together.<BR/><BR/>I love your blog so much. So grateful that you spend the time to write it. Good luck with going back to work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-26228399344394876102008-03-27T04:17:00.000-05:002008-03-27T04:17:00.000-05:00... are you ME? I could have written that exact sa...... are you ME? I could have written that exact same post. Wow.<BR/><BR/>A friend always stopped her husband from anything he was doing with the kids because he wasn't doing it right. He got her Dr. Laura's book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husband's and she snapped out of it.<BR/><BR/>I read it too. Dr. Laura sure knows how to tell it like it is.<BR/><BR/>It IS more important that our husbands are spending time with the kids, then that they are spending time with the kids OUR way. <BR/><BR/>I've made some improvements, however, I still find myself being a jerk to my husband and our marriage suffering ... I can SO relate. <BR/><BR/>thank you for this post.Wendsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09651081249568327791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-14213184663696158342008-03-26T23:01:00.000-05:002008-03-26T23:01:00.000-05:00I have caught myself in the same boat a lot lately...I have caught myself in the same boat a lot lately and have really been trying to figure out how to be better about it.... it's just so darn tough when I know that like Mary Poppins, "I'm pratically perfect in every way" and expect others to be as well. *sigh*Kahlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09062732728748588097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-60401925068539361232008-03-26T22:33:00.000-05:002008-03-26T22:33:00.000-05:00Wait. My way isn't the ONLY way? Dammit. I owe som...Wait. My way isn't the ONLY way? Dammit. I owe someone an apology.My name is Tammiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205005861346652230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-35121545295146782012008-03-26T21:26:00.000-05:002008-03-26T21:26:00.000-05:00I am totally in the same ballpark as you! Since I...I am totally in the same ballpark as you! Since I am the CEO of the house, yes, everything must be done MY WAY! I also work 10-20 hours a week. Good luck on "playing nice" with your hubby. With my husband and myself both being oldest children, there is a lot of criticism and....yipes, we are doing counseling at our church! I appreciate this post more than you know!<BR/><BR/>Melody<BR/>Andrew, Luke and John 1-08-06lodyphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15860967342149039724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-82081826727513710082008-03-26T20:42:00.000-05:002008-03-26T20:42:00.000-05:00I have many of the same control issues and they do...I have many of the same control issues and they do tend to take a toll on a marriage. The reality is they can never do it they way we do it and letting go of that is difficult, although healthy. I have been working part-time since my 2 year old was born, and now I'm home with her and a 3 month old. I have been recently contemplating returning to work full-time after cutting back for so long(huge anxiety)but in the end I think we will continue to sacrifice as I work part-time to avoid daycare or nannies as long as possible. Here's to continuing the mommy juggle!Yogimamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10640303082425333319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24756113.post-8997287740980148082008-03-26T19:39:00.000-05:002008-03-26T19:39:00.000-05:00I think some things are about control (I squeeze t...I think some things are about control (I squeeze the toothpaste tube this way, therefore YOU must squeeze the toothpaste tube THE SAME WAY)---but I think other things are about consideration (one spouse not wrecking the other spouse's work, as with the sweatshirts) and about doing things the Actual Right Way (the amoxicillin that really must be taken at the right time).Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.com